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Originally Posted by emerylost
I have BPD and my emotions and feelings are so out there sometimes. I have a daughter who is mentally retarded and she feeds off of how I feel that day. Sometimes its so hard to be happy and positive for her. She does not understand that I am not mad, or sad or depressed because of her. I am learning to regulate my emotions so how do I help her understand? I may say something and she thinks I am being mean or rude. This is so hard to even say what I am trying to...............
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thanks for t his. (had trouble putting the thanks on here; comp. issues)
Just had a thought: i wonder if many "non bpd's" have trouble understanding that we bpds do not mean to put our problems on them?
Living with a "non" myself, I have run into Bruce saying, "Billi, why are you so angry? You remind me of my mother. You just slam around all the time and yell all the time."
And I tell him, "Bruce, it's not about you. It's because today the cable guy on the phone ticked me off". or, "Please get into reality and remember that you are an adult and I am not your mother and not going to hurt you."
But I know how hard it is for him. For him to live around an angry person. And I too am making an effort to change my behavior.
thanks,
Billi