skysblue, I'm sorry I didn't get to your thread until now. You've gotten such insightful, thoughtful responses! Now that I read that you've been in contact with your T about it, and read your exchanges with her, I think you're going to work it out. It's not going to spell the end, and I'm glad about that.

Your T is correct that your reaction to her forgetting is an old wound. My T would have told me it comes from a very young part and "let's not judge it but just be curious about it". Going that route is going to be productive for you; your T knows what she's doing!

You're working hard with this, and I agree about it being progress to allow yourself to express your feelings even though you're ashamed. There's nothing to be ashamed of. Like my T says, "that's why I'm here--to help you with it".

I would have felt the same way as you did; I have similar problems due to my child parts. It would have seemed like the ultimate rejection so I understand your "HOW DARE SHE FORGET?" feelings. It's hard to separate our rational and emotional reactions but it's sure good that our Ts know the difference!