I think that's for people who got a lot of needs met to begin with. That's why I was asking what are tears made of. If your "bank account" is empty to begin with, if only very basic needs were met, ie you're still breathing, then this is an elitist concept put forth by a bunch of rich (not necessarily financially) shrinks. You don't mourn never having had a penny to go into the candy store as a kid - you just want a taste of candy now. Then you can figure things out from there just fine!