Working through a similar issue myself from the opposite side. My wife and I both grew up in very religious homes and met in Bible college. We have sort of cooled off and drifted away from organized religion since then, up until our big marital blowup over the past few months. Since then she has taken a hard turn back into religion, becoming heavily involved in church etc. I'm still working through the "how could God allow this" stage from all the bad things I've seen happen to people who didn't deserve it during my career. With my mental illness I feel like if God is all that I've always been taught, and he controls everything, then he either did this to me or he allowed it to happen, and either way I'm not interested.

It's both a delicate balance and a two way street. My wife isn't pushing her new involvement in church on me, and I'm trying to learn about (or actually relearn things I already learned) her beliefs and why she feels as strongly as she does.

Best of luck to you in this tricky situation. May your spirituality help you to find peace as you seek a solution.