I am also a teen and I also hate my mother. For very specific reasons, though. We actually used to have a good relationship. But then last year I was diagnosed with Anorexia. The treatment used involved my parents making me eat and gain weight. I completely understand the need for eating and weight gain. I'm in recovery now and I don't want to go back. I'm glad I'm no longer in my eating disorder. The thing is, my parents control my weight. They made me literally medically overweight. It's not just that I'm anorexic and am messed up in my head about my weight, I'm SERIOUSLY overweight. And I have to stay this way for as long as they control me, which may be through college. So at least the next five years. And I just literally want her to die a lot of times. I know that makes me awful. I just want to be at a reasonable weight, you know?
So I get where you're coming from. And I always feel like I have no one to talk about it with, because everyone else loves their parents. So you can definitely talk to me about it any time, I'd love someone to relate to!
I'm not sure how best for you to deal with this. Since it's been going on for so long, you probably already have some kind of system. I support the idea mentioned about other female role models. Other than that, try to surround yourself with people you love like your friends.
Wishing you the best.