I looked on your profile, so yes to Bipolar. Yes Bipolar can really flip peoples live upside down.

I'm really sorry this is happening. Leed asked some good questions about his past behavior. How did he take the diagnosis? For some of us, we already kinda knew and the news wasn't too bad. For others it comes as a complete surprise and that can really leave the person shaken up, even if you see the diagnosis coming it can still be very difficult to wrap your head around, much less accept.

There was one time in my life where my Bipolar played a big role in my decision to break things off with my boyfriend. I went through a very manic period followed with some heavy medication. The medication in part made me feel less attached to him, the mania tho made the problems we were having seem very huge. Also I felt like a burden to him with my illness, and I decided he would be better off to meet someone who was not mentally ill. Most of this was the bipolar talking, we did have some problems but they were workable. We did get back together after a few months, but it was a really hard time.

I was convinced that because of my illness that I should live a lonely existence and not involve anyone else in this or be a burden. I'm not sure what is going on with your husband, that was just my experience with this.

Hopefully he will get some medication to help and things can be worked out. This is so hard for everyone involved. The medication like Leed said can take a while to take effect. Bipolar is very treatable with medication, lifestyle choices, and therapy. Getting the meds right tho can be a really tricky process. It takes patience and percerverience. Some people do find meds that work well faster than others.

I second the therapy, medication alone can help, but therapy is very very helpful to someone with Bipolar.

I wish you well, I hope your husband will be able to get the help he needs soon, hopefully you both will be able to work this out. Take care, and don't be afraid to post on the bipolar forum either, if you have any questions.. People will be more than happy to help you. I hope you keep posting, I think you could use the extra support for yourself at this moment. Your wellbeing is just as important.