Sorry to hear of your wife's diabetes, brookwest. Such a serious condition requiring so many lifestyle adjustments; I hope she's doing well--able to accept, etc. I hope the hospital stay isn't going to be extended for too long and that being step-dad on your own isn't a stress-inducer.

I am perhaps reading between the lines stuff that's not there, but your saying of wife, "She says she loves me," seems at odds with, "That is a rare gift." If you don't believe her, is there a gift? I gather that your ten-yr marriage has involved many difficult times that you've had to work through together--but you have done that, right? The discomfort isnt ongoing, is it?

Because if it is, then you have serious work to do. IMO, anyway. Discomfort of that sort would explain your uncertainty about your spouse's feelings; that in turn would (if I were you) be all sorts of red flags.

How are you? Being too busy to get drunk would be setting me on the path to getting over-tired ... One of my major triggers.

Please understand, brookwest, I'm not saying you're in trouble. I failed to pick up on what another member mentioned in passing the other day and I've given that some thought. I think we need to be more aware of what isn't said sometimes.

So I'm telling you flat out there's no such thing as being too busy to get drunk. An alcoholic stays sober much longer by design than by diversion. Please, focus on this.

Roadie