I have feelings similar to MCL. Parenting my children, meeting their needs, is a way of giving back and healing the needs that went unmet in my own childhood. On a smaller scale, teaching my students, giving them what they need to become professionals in their chosen field, encouraging and supporting them in their dreams. Volunteering, or sometimes writing a check, for local nonprofits that help other people. Helping out a friend in need, shoveling my neighbors' walkway and sidewalks in the winter.

I have also had waves of grief that come over me seemingly quite random, but when I am in the midst of working on things in T. I let them wash over me and they are bearable, and then they leave. And I go back to life.