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Originally Posted by elliemay
I know not going would definitely have been an option for me in a situation like this. On the other hand, going in could calm the waters rather than stir the pot.
Don't you think it might be wise in the long run to go in and try to stabilize the situation with her. I mean isn't that how relationships kinda work? When there is a problem the two people pull together to fix it?
I so very much understand the desire to pull back and lick your wounds, but isn't that kind of an old way of dealing with things? Maybe this is a chance for something new, a little scary perhaps, but better in the long run? Maybe?
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elliemay - you're right that going might calm the waters instead of stirring the pot. But the operative word here is 'might'. And sure, when there are problems between 2 people, yes, I agree that we should pull together to work things out.
But my concern is that things could get revved up again like they were yesterday and then I'm 'stranded' for 2 weeks. Right now I've gained that equilibrium and I'm desperate to hang on to it. I fear being swept away by that emotional turmoil. Again, the problem here is that T will be gone. If she weren't leaving, I would go in and face it. I've faced tough stuff with her before but always with knowing I can connect with her when it gets too rough out of session.
But, I'll still go along with what T recommends. She still has not returned my phone call.