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Originally Posted by critterlady
I agree with SpiritRunner. It sounds more like you might be afraid of what the big reaction meant and how you handled it and might want to allow time to pass so you can both forget about it a little.
For me, I know that delaying facing something like that really just makes it worse. I obsess over it until I have that difficult conversation and, if too much time passes, I build it up to something I simply can't face. I always have much better results if I face it as soon as possible. I always feel better when I do.
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Yes, I do want to forget those heightened feelings from yesterday. I want to forget the hurt, the fear, the shame of it all. Oh yes, absolutely true. I do not want to face T next Wednesday. Just thinking about it makes my stomach turn. I want to avoid as much as possible a return to those painful feelings. And if I go in next week I know I would be trying desperately to think of strategies to avoid discussing what happened.
Delaying for me, I think, would not make it obsessive. See, I'm a queen at pushing stuff down and making it disappear. Even T knows I'm an expert at this. If there were Olympic medals for the skill of avoidance I would win the gold medal, no doubt.