"Spouses support each other," he says. Where is his support for you? Remind him of that.

Forgive me if that came off harsh, but his hypocrisy in that is staggering to me.

I know all about the Elite pack. It's a money grab as I see it. Yes, you do get the maps before others, and I believe they're automatically given to you. It's quite like a Season Pass. However, it really ends there. The rest is unnecessary little gadgets like K/D calculators (Which honestly can be done with your cell phone's calculator app), things like a prestige calculator (pointless), and some mild clan support...aside from the maps, it's a complete waste in all honesty. The only way you can justify it financially is if he religiously gets ALL the DLC packs, but this late into the game with the new Call of Duty scheduled to drop in November (Call of Duty releases yearly, thanks to Activision's management), it's a waste at this point in time.

My point? It's his game, and he seems to be making a recurring habit of choosing it over you. Ergo, as I see it, his problem. I wouldn't give him a dime for it.

And you're right...the CoD community is different by a LOOOOOOOONG shot. Xbox Live isn't exactly where you go to find hope in humanity by any means, but it's AWFUL on Call of Duty. I quit playing because I was sick of the community.

But getting to what's important...it's clear to me that he's made his priorities, and that he doesn't seem willing at all to do anything to change them. The way he treats you seems borderline if not fully emotionally/verbally abusive, in my opinion. Additionally, you shouldn't have to "stick up" for him when his mother is pointing out his behavior is wrong. You're his wife, not his attorney, harsh as that may sound. He's in the wrong here. You shouldn't validate that.

I know him threatening to leave must hurt, and I know you have a child with him. I am sorry he has put you were you are now. I don't like advising married couples on whether they should stay together or not. I've never felt qualified or like it was my place to do so. However, given how he seems to treat you...have you ever thought him leaving might be good for you, in the long run? I know that's an unpleasant prospect, and I hope I don't offend by suggesting it might be something to look at, but....

Do you think he'd submit to couples counselling if you brought it up? I'm...not optimistic, given what you've said, but you know him better than I.

Please, forgive me if I offended or my tone sounds harsh. I know he his your husband and the father of your child. But he is a father and a husband now. I game a lot. A LOT. Heck, I have my DS in my lap as I type this. But once you're a father and a husband, your priorities should shift. Period.
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I am sorry you are dealing with this...I hope to be of as much help as I can