Idk if this is the right place to post about a friendship or not, but I think I need some advice. I had this best friend who I was really close with. We shared everything and were always in constant contact. Well senior yr of college I started acting really sporadic (later diagnosed bp2) and we started fighting a lot over nothing. I'd pick a fight or cause a problem. Well she stuck through it until last Sept when I became really suicidal. I went and got help and that's when she disappeared. She didn't talk to me for like a month. Later I found out she was pissed at me and also thought if she came back I'd quit therapy. But she slowly came back, but now I don't trust her not to leave again. She randomly disappears in the middle of conversations and sometimes won't respond until days later. We usually only talk maybe once a week. But my T told me to talk to her about whether she wants my trust back, which she says she does so I told her I need her to be a more stable consistent figure in my life in order to earn my trust. After I said that she disappeared again. All my friends and my T think that she isn't healthy for me cuz she has me on a roller coaster when she disappears, so should I walk away at this point? And if so, how do I deal with that? I honestly don't feel like I can handle that right now, but I also can't handle this roller coaster anymore. I want off, but I also want my best friend back :'( What do I do????
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