Both my husband and I are bipolar. When shifting to extremes I constantly want a divorce. When I'm manic I really just want to get all the aggravating people out of my life, which is everyone at that time. When depressed I don't want to "drag" my loved ones down too. We have a 6 month rule, If our meds check out okay, very rarely that they check out fine when in these mood, but if it does then we talk to our individual therapist and our family therapist to see what is going on. When I first got dx'ed I wanted to be as far away from my loved ones as possible because they deserved so much better then me. It took me three years before I accepted that I was an asset to our family. I would really suggest individual, family, and couples therapy for each of you including your children. Mental illness is hard and stressful on everyone in the family. If you do not stay together please still get individuality and family therapy so you can co-parent in the healthiest way possible.

Best of luck.