hugs to you. i have a similar issue with memories and feeling engulfed by the emotions of them too.

i am not sure what to suggest.

i don't think people just get over this sort of stuff, meaning people may move on with life after healing, but i am not sure.

i try to take what i can as lessons, but when triggered it is harder to see the lesson. i try hard to use self soothing skills and wise mind if i can.