Background:

I have been seeing a T for 3 weeks now. Have been remembering bits and pieces of my childhood during the past month. I don't recall any s*xual ab*se specifically, but I do have enough triggers that it is very probable that I was. I do recall being emotionally/verbally abused by my mother, but the memories so far are few. But something must have taken place during my childhood that causes me to have DID, right??? My mother and I now have a pretty amicable relationship,

My daughter is 2 1/2 years old and goes over to my parents house twice a week (without me or hubby) from 10a to 4p. She truly loves her gramps and has come to love her grammy now too. This house is not where I grew up--my parents moved 5 hours from home to live 10 minutes away from us to be close to us and their granddaughter. We made this arrangement before we remembered any of the bad stuff.

Question: There are some inside me who are really concerned about dd getting hurt by my mother. But they express nothing more than a vague uneasyness. This is really not enough to go on to have dd stop going to my parents house, is it??? My T says to keep a watchful eye on how dd reacts to grandparents. This is slightly complicated by the fact the dd was s*xually ab*used in an orphanage before age 1, so she already displays unusual reactions and body memories at times.

I'm afraid to pull my dd away from my parents if my mother was nothing more than mean to me growing up and someone else caused the trauma. This would be truly unfair and detrimental to everyone involved. However, what if there is something dark and terrible from my past with my parents and I am unwilling to remember to keep my sanity now and that causes dd to become abused?

How in the world does one go about this?

Elizabeth