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Apr 28, 2012, 07:23 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: Fringes of the bell-shaped curve
Posts: 779
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Hi, so_punk_rock! I've just returned to PC, so haven't talked to you in a very long time. Please don't be so hard on yourself - just take the lesson learned to heart and use it to modify your actions in the future - no self-judging and condemning - no self-loathing, please. Most of us depressives have poor impulse control anyway. Alcohol lowers everyone's impulse control, and the more compromised it is to begin with, the faster and more completely it disappears in the presence of alcohol and other substances that interfere with brain function. This is a fact - file it away so you can retrieve and utilize this knowledge in the future.
You're young, spr, and it is perfectly normal for you to be flirtatious at your age - that's the repro hormones talking, and they can often talk loud enough to drown out our logic and reason - especially if logic and reason have been disabled by alcohol. You've learned something about yourself - you don't like who you became under the influence of the alcohol - lesson learned? Don't set yourself up for regret. It doesn't matter that some other people are not affected to the same extent when they drink - you are, and that's the reality you have to acknowledge and deal with.
As for "the guy" - to be honest, no matter how flirtatious you were or weren't, most males don't need much encouragement to be interested - evolution has wired them to be interested at all times. You don't want to be afraid to use your phone; so turn it back on, and deal with the situation if it arises. Who knows? He may have been tipsy himself and might not even recall the encounter clearly or even that he has your number. If he calls, just be honest with him - gently honest. Apologize for being tipsy and possibly giving him the wrong impression, and simply reiterate that you are not interested in getting involved in a relationship at this time. Keep it short and sweet - do not go into a lengthy explanation of why you are not interested - you have to go, you have something to do or have someplace to be - byebye.
Remember, that anticipatory anxiety always makes things seem more ominous than they really are - confronting and dealing with them usually cuts them down to size.  lynn09
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(Robert Browning Hamilton; "Along The Road")
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