Hello, I have a lot of experience with adoption issues that I would like to share. I have frequently observed that children grieve the loss of birth parents and that this is pretty normal. I have had experiences that tell me that despite the popular opinion open adoption may be much more painful especially if the kids were in the foster care system. I will also say that with many friends adopted as infants that they had strong relationships with their families and only wanted to find birth parents for the medical records. Adoption at infancy is preferrable if it can be done.

All of that said, I wonder if life would be easier without kids? More money, less heartache? I don't know but I welcome more conversation about it.