I am going to give the opposite of Darkeyes coin here. I had an emotional affair. I know it isn't quite the same as actually lying down with the other guy but it was intense and extremely hurtful to my husband. I did it to escape from the pain that was my marriage. I feel horrible for what I did because I didn't want to hurt my husband I just wanted to stop hurting myself. Thankfully my husband stuck with me. It prompted me to get into therapy and the both of us into couples therapy. I would never do it again because now I know I CAN talk to my husband, it is ok to say things that might hurt his feelings or make him mad. I couldn't do that before. I hurt all the time because I couldn't say these things to him.

Before you call it quits please go to couples counseling and see what happens.
Zen

<font color=green>The snow falls on no two trees alike, and the forms it assumes are as various as those of the twigs and leaves which recieve it...so one divine spirit decends alike on all, but bears a peculiar fruit in each--Henry David Thoreau