My husband and i have been in a volatile relationship for 20 years. I usually end up crying. Thats his goal, to "break" me & then hes the winner. A simple argument escalates into him bringing up mistakes from the past..he brings up the worst ive done to "win". I cant live like this anymore. But am on Social Security & he knows i cant get by without his help...any suggestions? I need to get away from him, hes like poison to me.