Work on making friends with yourself so your husband can't provoke you. A mistake is just that, a mistake, not a crime! If you try to learn from your mistakes you should be proud of yourself and, learning, the mistake becomes something that is helpful rather than hurtful to you! Make sure, too, that your mistakes are yours to begin with; just because someone else thinks what you do is a bad idea does not make it a bad idea for you! You are living your own life and the mistakes you make are only the ones you decide on, not the judgments of others.

Don't engage with him when he is just being mean and trying to hurt you; smile sweetly and go read a book or otherwise ignore him (go in the kitchen and start doing dishes or something, anything that is fairly non-male and not an area he's interested in). If he can't get a rise out of you he'll get bored pretty quickly and leave you alone.