Your hub sounds like a real jerk to me!!

I do understand being dependent upon someone ~ I've been there. However, there are public health groups throughout California, to get out of damaging relationships. Your hub may not be physically abusive, but your description sounds pretty emotionally intense. Certainly unhealthy!

Family support groups are there to help people get out of the dependent situations that they find themselves living in. Gentle hugs to you, Lily2. Don't give in to your hub's pushing....whatever you do. Leave the room. Take a bathroom break, or go for a walk. Get away from him being in your face & get away from him asap.