Okay, so, I take it this has been prompted by my response to Onward2wards' post - I was just trying to say that people deal with things in their own way, right or wrong, and can sometimes not know what they are doing or mean it to be hurtful - I for one didn't even recognise my behaviour as bullying at the time. Some people turn inwards, others turn outwards, I did both. I was bullied by teachers at school and I didn't want to cause others hurt, I didn't think that it did - mine was verbal bullying, not that I knew it at the time. I've fought the notion that I am a bad person because of this for a long time, but perhaps you are right, and I am wrong, and I no longer really feel comfortable here, so I shall say my adieu, I thought I might find people who related and I didn't want to cause offense. Sadly I now feel more alone than ever.