So sorry to hear about your troubles Yoda but so glad to hear from you! Glad you are all right even with all you have going on it can be overwhelming. Do you possibly need a bigger breaker for all that is on the one? Has the breaker tripped? I am not a electrician either but lived with one for 13 years. Also had an old house with old wiring so I have a few ideas. My friend also lost a horse this year that can be so hard they are after all part of the family. I am with George might as well take your neighbor up on the offer, She may just mean well. Hope you do stay safe and pm me anytime.