Regarding finances, the rule in my state is generally that the spouse is entitled to support for half the length of the marriage, so in your 20 years (I'm guessing) of marriage he would be responsible to pay you support for 10 years. In other specific cases, the amounts may be different. For me, since I earned my disability pension solely during the time we were married, my wife is entitled to 50% of it as long as I remain alive and collecting it. These are examples, your situation may vary. Start by checking with Social Security, your local Job & Family Services, and any other local resources you may have. Some unexpected doors may open for you. Best of luck to you in this difficult situation.