I've had a few friends over the years who have just dumped me. Hasn't everyone?

I think therapy is just like "real life" in that way. Your spouse can leave you (so can your adult children), family members can stop talking to you or ignore you, friends can dump you, you can be fired without cause. All of these things involve someone you trust breaking that trust.

I don't think my T is my friend, no matter how easy she is to talk to. It is so one sided-- she does talk at times about her, but we aren't sharing in a reciprocal like I do with family and friends-- that I can't consider it a friendship.

But because it's business, it is a T's responsibility to act in your best interest, and that might mean honestly assessing their skills and being unable to help, which would mean that the ethically responsible thing to do is to refer you elsewhere. I understand that this can hurt, but wouldn't it hurt more to learn that your therapist kept taking your money and your time even though she believes she wasn't helping and couldn't help you?