(((((OH, WAIT A MINUTE HERE)))))

The way we do it here is to speak our minds, NO ONE IS GOING TO LEAVE OK? Both of you have BEEN ABUSED and reacted differently. And the truth is that some people who have been abused and neglected DO become bullies. And if we are going to work on healing, it is important to understand HOW different people respond to abuse, neglect and poor environments growing up. Lets face it, we were all children, what did we know really? What we did know is that we had to find ways to survive and deal somehow.

Should we get mad at each other? Or mad at ourselves? Feel like we can not be a welcome member of PC, a place were so many come and share their histories of abuse and how they are trying to heal from the damage that caused to us? NOOOOO, WE ARE ALL TRYING, I KNOW I AM AND I AM NOT PERFECT BY ANY MEANS HERE.

Shezbut, you have been a member here a while, I know you try very hard and have offered support to others here, including myself, NO WAY ARE YOU LEAVING !!!!!!

And karmamie, you are new member struggling too, you belong here sharing and learning as well. Your input shows a different perspective that is all.

THE BOTTOM LINE IS WE ARE FINDING OUT WHATEVER WE DID WAS NOT ALWAYS BALANCED SOMEHOW DUE TO OUR ABUSE GROWING UP, YEAH, ME TOO. We are all in the same boat here really, trying hard to give ourselves permission to not blame ourselves and instead be kind to ourselves and REMIND OURSELVES THAT WE DESERVED TO THRIVE "IN SPITE" OF THE ABUSE AND LACK OF PROPER NURTURING WE RECIEIVE SOMEHOW.

I have been a member of PC for a year now and there have been times where I too was triggered and felt that maybe I should just leave. But I made up my mind that I would LEARN MY WAY THROUGH IT, NO MATTER WHAT. Sure, there have been members that disagreed with me, even made remarks, MUCH LIKE MY ABUSERS DID. YES, I was triggered and hurt too, but after I gave it a lot of thought, even endured some upsetting flashbacks and days full of anxiety that was crippling, I LEARNED SOMETHINGS ABOUT MYSELF, PAINFUL THINGS I HAD TO FACE TOO. But when I REALLY looked, all it boiled down to was a very LOST little girl that DID HER BEST in spite of being scared and unsafe MOST OF HER LIFE.

Sure, I am a big poster here and how many hugs do I have? Geez I lost count to be honest. Maybe I have some good advice, maybe I don't, but I DO FEEL THE PAIN OF OTHERS, I KNOW IT PERSONALLY. Not everything I did in my life was bad, I did manage to learn a lot, have even been called extremely intuitive by a few T's. But they way I learned to be intuitive was not nice, it was how I learned to survive even though I was afraid and confused SO MANY DAM TIMES IN MY LIFE.

Shezbut, you will never guess how many times I read your posts that were so warm and encouraging and incredibly supportive. You have come a long way my friend inspite of your extremely difficult journey. You are more thoughtful than anyone I have met outside PC IRL. Are you going to have all the right answers? Ofcourse not, none of us have that, if we did would we be here?

Lets let this settle down ok? Because it is just too dam lonely outside PC, we need each other, we need to have someplace to come and talk and share with others who understand our journey and how much of a struggle it all is.

((((Hugs for you both, please, don't trigger out, trigger and learn your way up and through)))))

(((((And I will be right here with you))))
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