Abuse can go both ways.

If you are upset with him about what he does, he sure doesn't deal with how his behaviors make you feel.

I feel that your husband is abusive getting angry at you when you initiate a conversation, brushing you off when you want to spend time with him, and not spending time with you where you are at (asking you to spend time in his office and not thinking of spending time with you somewhere else, or like someone said on here, having a night with you and then spending other time with friends)

And it sounds too like he seems to give his games and his friends more attention that he gives you.

Billi