Very glad I found this forum. I'm in my 50's and much better than in adolescence, but started getting triggered a lot with all the teenagers in my house. It got really difficult, but once I realized what was going on I've been able to think more clearly most of the time and to reassure myself. During an attack I can recognize, okay, I'm being borderline, which doesn't take away the pain but it DOES take away the confusion. I still give myself permission to cry (away from the kids!) because my feelings still need to be validated, but since I know what is going on, it doesn't escalate.