Chocolate lover: You and I would be the perfect conversationalists. I don't talk much so I wouldn't mind listening. I went to a dietitian and she told me to follow teh national food guide and I would be fine. She gave me calendar sheets to record what I eat everyday. Then she saw me one month later and helped me tweak a few things but I lost 9 pounds that month just by eating more food. I was barely eating before and still gaining weight. When I simply followed the national food guide for one month, it made a huge difference.

I have anxiety disorder also (Known as Avoidant Personality Disorder), and deal with depression and self esteem issues first triggered in my chlidhood by school bullies, then by dating too many men who lied just to get sex, then a marriage gone wrong, and finally a man who gave me a health issue relating to sex. The workplace was always telling me what i was doing wrong OR praised me for being such a great worker, but I never was promoted to anything because the supervisors loved where they were...so I have kept looping for 30 years never making it above minimum wage even after 4 trades and a university degree...no experience. I have mentally followed the idea of just shut up and do as you are told. So I went to a counsellor to taught em of the mind and thought distortions and how to recognize when I was using distorted thoughts. http://sourcesofinsight.com/10-disto...king-patterns/
Now I am reading Feel the Fear...And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. It ahs helped me a lot. I still struglle frustratingly with mindful meditation. Being a person whose thoughts go off in a million directions all the time...it is still challenging me to learn mind control, but I am working on it. Maybe try a couple of things I mentioned. I wish you all the best hun. Big Hugs to you.