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Originally Posted by elliemay
I think it is important to realize instead that the relationship is good enough - good enough to help us do what we want to do. Help ourselves.
It's like swimming in the ocean really. Get too close to the shore and you get battered by the waves. The key is to go deeper, out past the breakers where you can float, but not get swept away.
What helped me to try to focus on my feelings rather than his. It felt good the way I felt about my therapist. It is what it is, no doubt, AND it felt pleasant.
It takes discipline, but allowing this feeling to exist, just as it was, was very very healing...
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and I like the ocean imagery. altho I only ever swim in a pool. but as I was learning to swim these past ten years, the more I practiced, the denser the water became, it seemed, and the better it held me up - which was a completely subjective experience. very weird.