I am lost I don't know how to handle this... I didn't make a new thread because I can't retype all this story...

He says I chose his mom over him, but I didn't choose her. I don't defend what he's doing because he's wrong, not because I don't love him or support him as a person. I just dis agree with his actions. His mom wants to move out, which I think she should because certain things are causing a huge rift in the relationship with my husband. But she is disabled and only makes $800 a month, so I don't think she can leave unless someone else takes her in. But there is no one to take her. She's used up all her welcome with friends and other family.

The things causing the rift are :
1) He hates her and I don't know why but doesn't want to resolve the issue or make up with her.
2) She always asks me to pick up cigarettes for her (with her money until she runs out then asks for me to get them and pays me back when she gets paid.)
3) When she had no money I get her medicine (which is $10) but wouldn't get his game which was $50, although I did end up getting it and waiting on a bill. He says I am her hero to the rescue but not his (he only had to wait 7 days....)
4) She cleaned up all her stuff and I cried because the house was back to normal. He says I didn't do the same when he cleaned the house after the baby was born. But I did. I did cry. He says I just said "Didn't daddy do a good job?" When we got home from the hospital. But then I was crying because the house was so nice.... but he doesn't remember.

Now, I don't like getting her cigarettes. But, she watches our son for free all day, and when I tell her I'm not going to get her cigarettes she gets very angry. She also has bipolar. She will say she's treated like a servant and no one ever takes care of her and her family always turns on her, etc. I can't handle it. Not only that, but because my husband is all locked up in his office, I get to sit out there with her snarling at me all evening after I return from work.

Well anyway, I don't know what to do. I've been leaving him alone because I know his angry treatment to his mom and me and his issue with the games, etc. is wrong. So I won't defend what I think is wrong... But now he's cut me off completely emotionally. And I know the reason he is still home is he has no where to go, and he hasn't said he's going anywhere, but maybe he's just keeping it quiet until he gets a plane ticket to his dad's or something or finds a job. And I don't know what to do. How do you live in a house with someone who doesn't love you any more but you love them?