shezbut, I have to say that while he didn't come right out and say it, he might as well have...he has yet to address the issue, and really only seems interested in talking about our sex life, idk, it might well be a doomed relationship if he doesn't snap out of it, i get that ppl are diff and ppl are raised to treat relationships diff, but i feel like we may not ever be really compatible...idk, not ready to give up yet, but not really sure that it will ever be better at this point. thx for the response, im sorry that your ex did that, but it is good to know that there are ppl who understand!