ohh if i had a dollar for everytime someone has thought of that wonderful piece of advice - the other one i hear is - well others have had it worse and they get over it whats wrong wiht you?

Its about empathy i think, if they can imagine themselves in your place then they dont say stupid things, my mother died of a heart attack just before i was going overseas to visit her and a "friend" said it was probably because you were visiting her - she got too excited. The problem is people dont think

they have two ears and one mouth which should mean we talk less than we listen and therefore understand - but its not true - some are so self absorbed that all they see is their world, they believe only their feelings and pain has to have room -

gets off soapbox...sorry

I work in a ward where a lot of the people cant eat and i see visitors bring in food and eat in front of them...like i said...for me its about empathy

and the ones who say that to you either dont understand or dont care

wishing you healing and peace

P7