Here and really tired even though I'm sleeping well. I think I'm still sick with whatever it was I had last week. I have a cough and a sore throat.
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Originally Posted by cybermember
Your son is manipulative in telling you he'll be alone if he moves out and that he has no friends or life, thus making the case for you to feel guilty by kicking him out.
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I wish it were that simple. He
wants to move out. He wants his own place, friends, and a gf. I think he's really scared that he'll isolate and start drinking and forget to eat or take his meds. In other words, I don't think he was trying manipulate me so much as he was telling me what he's scared of. And, honestly, I'm scared of those things too, because in the past that's
exactly what he's done. I wish we could do some small transition to his own place. Like maybe a room in some nice retired lady's home. Or a place he stayed at for half the week and came home for half the week. I don't see it happening, though. So we're looking at a cold impersonal apartment complex. Probably poorly constructed with a drug user across the hall. One apartment he lived in had such bad accoustics. There were random noises and voices that seemed to come from no where. It played hell with his head.
I give him some structure. I remind him to eat, brush his teeth, take his meds. Not that he needs reminding of those things most of the time, but he starts getting into a state where things are falling apart and he needs a bit of a push to get back on track.
I also give him someone sane to talk to. He tends to isolate. And when he does find people to hang out with, they're losers. They're people who know he has a car and a small income from disability, and they move in to his world and leech off him. They don't help him keep his head together. They actively work to pull him apart, so they can pick at the carcass. I don't know how these people live with themselves. I hope there's a warm little corner in hell for them.
Also, I suspect he may resent me on some level. He's way more dependent on me than any 27 year old wants to be on their mom. And then I suspect he feels bad for resenting me, because I'm being so damned nice to him.
Don't you just hate it when someone is irritating you, but they won't give you a good excuse to cream them?
