I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We don't live together and he says he wants to marry me but we aren't engaged and we have no dreams of having kids. I have been looking for a new job for 2 years to further my career and he just recently started a new job. Since he got this new job he has made me promise to wait until he is ready to move on (could be 1-3 years).
I feel that I am in a position where my industry will see me as stale if I stay too much longer at my current company as there is no room for advancement. I have already turned down three interviews and now I have a fourth one that has come up, which is a dream job for me.
I want to talk to him about accepting the interview (half way across the country) but I don't even feel comfortable approaching it because I'm afraid he is going to be mad at me for even considering it. I really don't want to break my promise but my career means the world to me and where am now is stressful and depressing and he knows it makes me unhappy.
Is it fair that he made me promise to wait for him for an undetermined time period when he knew I was looking to advance? Am I being selfish? How would you recommend approaching him on the subject? Should I just not say anything and turn down the interview?