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It's unreasonable for her to expect for you to never talk to your mother again. That demand is ridiculous. She's not talking for 5 days? She needs to get over it. 5 days? I understand the whole silent treatment thing but what she is doing is counterproductive. She thinks she is hurting you by not speaking to you. I would ask her if she is ready to talk. If not, give her time. Let her come around when she comes around. I understand her being hurt by being not able to conceive. Instead of ignoring you, she should talk about it and go to the doctor to see why you aren't conceiving. Maybe she doesn't want to go because she doesn't want to find out the truth. She's afraid of the truth. Kinda like how people don't go to the doctor when they suspect an illness because they are scared. Not being able to have kids hurts women on a level that it doesn't hurt men. Because, well, that is partly why we are here on earth. To produce. That is what we, as women, do. And if she can't do it, it may make her feel lesser than.
Her approach is immature. I am not without fault. I have taken the silent treatment approach. This is just what we as women do to make you men suffer in silence and wonder (like you are doing now) why she is upset, what can you do to get back in her good graces. And it doesn't help. You stay angry and upset with the other person. The more grown up thing to do is to talk it out. If you're upset with the other person, talk, come to a resolution the best that you can. I hate going to bed upset with my partner. And I hate the walking around the house upset thing. You two sound young. No offense. I'm doing calculations from when you said you met, etc etc. Plus, younger couples/people tend to flow a bit different than someone who is older.If you are young, things like this should get a bit easier. Hopefully your communication will get a little better. Stick in there. Check on her, see if she's ok and ready to talk. If not, step back, give her her room and occupy your time.
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