i don't know, he says he doesn't even want to talk to me right now...he has yet to even respond to my email from Fri morning, i dont think he wants to talk about it...feel pretty isolated right now, sitting in the hospital with my little boy (he is getting scheduled chemo) my only two real friends are pretty much unavailable, one's hubby cheated on her a cpl months ago and she is working through her issues, the other has a little boy (4 yrs old) who had retinoblastoma (eye cancer) and is now facing late effects of his chemo, myelodysplatic syndrome (pre-leukemia), so i feel pretty bad even trying to talk about my issues with them...that's what led me to this site, but i am pretty sure it's going to take some serious marriage counseling to get us over this hump...and i don't even know if he is open to the idea, he is just so stubborn, and sounds like he is unwilling to make any changes...or effort in this area,