(((1tash1)))

In my own experience at marital counseling, we began by hearing my "issues" and then went onto his "issues". From there, we were to go onto look at situations from the other person's perspective. Which was to get out of our emotions, and not over-react. I did my homework, which did help me personally. My ex chose not to do his homework, and the counseling quickly changed into his decision of wanting a divorce.

I hope that your wife hasn't been holding these dark emotions inside of herself for X amount of years (like my hub was), that's what seems to be where the break occurred. Try not to worry too much, 1tash1, you will get your chance to say your side. And, trust me, the therapist will be just as understanding of your perspective on life. The goal is to get both of you to become a little more accepting and understanding of the other. Keep that in mind.

Best wishes to you and your family!