Does anybody else think she's having an affair? Or working a secret 2nd job to pay for a really great surprise gift for the family? Dude, you're an adult, but I think it's kind of harsh that she pulls this carp on your daughter and you allow her to, unless one of you is a step parent to the girl. Then, idk, might be a little different, whose responsibility actually is she? But I see it as far more than a communication issue. Definitely a r/s issue.