Thanks so much for the quick response and the book suggestions, I will give those a try.
1. Yes this past year
2. No I was told that it wasn't recommended for him.
3. The only other school is about 20mins away and has a really bad reputation for drugs & as for a private school the are too $ for us unfortunately.
4. He did have some disruption issues before diagnosis. Over the last year he just doesn't want to do the work in school.

He has a board paid for PC in class but even with that he has the choice if he wants to do it or not. I feel like they have just given up on him. He is so smart and I really hate to see him fall between the cracks as THAT kid.
I am just so lost as I know what works for me is to just make him do it, he does argue with me, but he knows that I just wont back off as it is a NEED not just something I want him to do. I have tried to get them to listen to me and they just treat me like I know nothing at all, after all I am not educated in Children they are - sarcasm and how to help them grow. It's frustrating as I have a hard time being strong and stating my opinions and always feel lorded over as it is always just Me in meetings with two or more teacher, EA occasionally Principal.
Hubby has gone with me to one meeting and he sat there and said nothing at all not even reacting to them and their finger pointing.
I really need to know that I am not being a ****** that I am trying to get them to listen to what I Know works for me & more importantly Him.

Thanks again
Nams