BC........Thanks for your input, I do appreciate that you are angered by abuse. We have been going through this for almost 6yrs now. I have done everything other than put a label on him and I do not medicate him. As far as your opinion on spanking I did mention I do not apologize for spanking.....there is a huge difference between what you went through and for that I am sorry, trust me I know - Abuse I went through it as a child with regular bruise and blood inducing beatings from my mother. What I do is NOT Abusive I had explored the no hitting policy for years and it got me nowhere. "A" is told that if the behavior happens again there will be a smacked bottom in his future......if he continues regardless he knows that it will end in a smack. That is on him NOT me. It is a case of a quick smack then ten secs later he is asking for ice-cream or time on the PC....I DO not hurt my children and usually I am the one who ends up crying in the bathroom. So please do not go accusing me of abuse, that is not what this post is about. I came to get help with my son.
The last time I spanked my son was almost a year ago and it happens Rarely.