It is behavior like that which gives women a bad name. You should change your direct deposit and then only give her what is needed to pay the bills at this time. Don't give her extra money for fun things.

When I divorced my first husband I did not request alimony or anything like that, because I was the one requesting the divorce, and even though I had no employment at that time. It is wrong to expect someone to continue to take care of you when you do not want your relationship any more.

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.