precious, I get the shame of it being another female. I have had to correct my T at least once, and I was even pretty open in the beginning about it being another female. I think it is REALLY hard for people to think of a woman as a sexual offender. I still get the shakes every time I try to talk about it (or type about it, like now). I would not be too hard on your T. The gender of a sex offender being male is the predominant assumption most people make.