((((Precious)))) I get this. I am so sorry that you were so hurt. I had a doctor step over the line when I was 19. As I told my T, I was also gender nutral (and I am an open lesbian). But I had a very difficult time accepting that the one who did that to me was another female. My T did the same thing with assigning the doctor the male role. I corrected him and then dissociated. It was a very painful topic for me.

You don't have to say the words that hurt to your T. But you can say "You are wrong about an assumption you made." There are ways to indirectly acknowledge painful situations in therapy without stating facts.

BIG hugs!!!!!