((((shoez)))),

I am sorry that your abusers interferred with your therapy and therapist. I can sympathize because this happened to me as well. A GOOD therapist who UNDERSTANDS, REALLY UNDERSTANDS the emotional reality of an abuse victim will SEE THROUGH the manipulation of the abusers. Sorry to say I had this happen to me and my abusers put thier labels on me and it was not helpful to me at all. In fact I now have flashbacks about that.

Shoez, you need to clear the air with your therapist and tell him/her that if they are going to be helpful to you at all then they have to believe you and allow you to feel safe with them. That is a therapist's job shoez, and if a therapist is not providing that situation for you, then ask for a referral or find a different therapist, I had to do that myself. People don't get the way you are all on their own, there are definite sypmtoms someone has that are REAL signs they have been abused. And as we know you here, we can see it and validate you many times over.

Yes, you are right NPD's can be very astute at making things seem like it is someone else's fault and they are the victim. You need to remind the therapist of this and have him/her really think about their time spent with these people and give it some real thought. Tell the therapist to pay attention to the way these people are SO GOOD AT MANIPULATING THE TRUTH and you are not kidding, you have struggled with this for many years. Ask your therapist is he/she is going to join in with these abusive people and INVALIDATE YOU AS WELL. Because if that IS the case, this therapist will only cause further abuse/damage.

(((SHOEZ)))) don't back down on this and give in, you deserve to be validated and helped and I am sure everyone here will agree with that. Make yourself clear with this therapist and if he/she is not going to believe you and work with you then find someone who WILL. There are good therapists out there that do know their stuff.

((((Hugs))))
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