Link,

Are you sure that you're not falling into the trap of believing that "love" must be "perfect" and "true"? You are how you are. She knows that. You know that. Granted, some behavior patterns need to be retrained - I think that applies to all of us in one way or another - but she loves you because of the way you are.

I can tell you right now from being with my fiance for a year and a half and living with him during that time, there are times when you will want to break up. There are times when the other person is going to drive you so far up a wall all you can do is get away for a bit. They're going to annoy you, irritate you, make you mad, make you frustrated and tired. Keep in mind this goes both ways - not only does my fiance occasionally get on my nerves, but I get on his. It's perfectly natural. Two different people from two different backgrounds are GOING to squabble.

On the other hand, all that irritation and snappiness means nothing when we're laughing hysterically at something stupid, doing bad impressions of each other (cracking up even more), cuddled up in bed, cooking dinner together or talking about our day. He really is my best friend, and with him I accept the good and the bad, as he accepts the good and the bad about me. I wouldn't "trade him in" for anything in the world. He's made my life a much better place to live in since he came along, and I always want to spend the rest of my life with him (except when he forgets to put my laundry in the dryer like he volunteered to do so that I wake up with 40 minutes before I leave for work and have zero in the way of dry pants ...Nah, I still love him then.)

some of it's magic
some of it's tragic
but i had a good life all the way......
~jimmy buffett