(((Mike J))) - I'm sorry you're going through this. I've been living separated but still in the same house for 6 yrs. My story is very unusual - we've gone through a rollercoaster of every emotion. Yes its best for both of you to be fair and civil but that's easier said than done. If possible try to settle this in mediation - to spare handing out thousands to money hungry lawyers who'll drag their feet. Have you both discussed how to settle assets etc?

Its normal to have all kinds of emotions and try to keep the negative ones in check. Hopefully if you have a therapist ...that will help with venting. One thing couples need to remember is...once you were both in love...therefore you don't want to end up hating and feeling lifelong resentment. I'm still in the process but at least we can both talk at time like old friends and still share a meal. My goal has always been to split peacefully and never wanted to drag him through the coals. I hope this will be as easy as possible for you both.