I could write pages about this but you have to go to work! I am retired after working at the same job for 22 years- if you let yourself get upset over something like this you will quickly get derailed in your career goals- with men in the workplace they speak a different language with each other than they do with females. - Neither of the supervisors comments sound like they have any "real" feelings behind them- he doesn't know how to evaluate you or anyone else- is my guess. These comments are "vapid" and meaningless! I would advise you to not even start looking for any kind of real affirmation of your good work habits- especially from a guy who still uses
the phrases he wrote in his high school year book!
I spent a lot of time at work worrying about being, or at least feeling, slighted. I think it might help you to see a counselor and talk about how you can better balance out your personal life and your work life- . The workplace will NEVER and I mean NEVER appreciate you because that is how the game is played. I could write more but who has that kindof time? LOL Just do the best you can and go home with a clear conscience!
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Originally Posted by oracat
I didn't see a forum for work-related topics, so if this is in the wrong place, I apologize. Please move to the correct spot. Thanks.
A co-worker and I both had 1-year anniversaries within a week of each other. For each of us our supervisor posted a congrats message on the internal company site for the whole team to read. Last week was my anniversary. For me, he wrote something like, it's been great working and hanging out with you this past year and I'm sure the future will be awesome too.
When I arrived that morning, he didn't mention the post or say anything to me, so I was pleasantly surprised and happy when I found it after checking the site. I felt very good.
Then my fellow teammate had his year anniversary today, and for him, my supervisor created a post that said, it's been an honor and a pleasure working with you this year and I look forward to many more years. When my teammate arrived in the morning, my boss immediately told him happy anniversary. What? He never said that to me.
I dunno, after comparing what he wrote for my co-worker vs what he wrote for me, it does sound like my supervisor likes him better. I'm really demotivated and find it hard to focus because this is really bothering me. He used words like "honor" and "pleasure" for my co-worker, and he posted it knowing that I would read it also. If I had been him I would have maybe used "honor" and "pleasure" privately if I didn't use those same words to describe everyone.
Don't get me wrong, I like him a lot, he's awesome and I really like the job and my colleagues. I don't think my boss had bad intentions. Everyone is supportive, but sometimes I feel like I just don't connect as well with people as I'd like. I'm a bit reserved and quiet and it's hard for me to just "be myself" (whatever that means). I try my best at my work, but I never seem to be as good as my teammates, both in terms of the work and in terms of social skills. I'm not in competition with them (we always help each other out, but overall my teammates are all better than me in pretty much all aspects of life, even the ones who joined later). I guess my boss can pick up on that because he also senses that I am inferior and so that's why he subconsciously wrote my co-worker a sightly better note?
Anyway, do you think I'm overreacting or do the differences in the words he used for him in comparison to me suggest that maybe he likes him better?
I know that this might be a stupid, immature thing to worry about it's *really* bothering me.
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