it's hard to realize when you're on the receiving end of it (as I am myself right now), but don't let someone else's craziness or limitations or stupidity or meanness or just WHATEVER - limit how far YOU will go in life or what you will do or learn or love or have. I know, it doesn't seem right, and in the animal kingdom, if your mother doesn't want you or protect you adequately, you're dead, that's it. I think that's part of why we feel so terrible, our survival instinct gets supremely screwed up.