Skysblue- I love what you have written. It hits close to home for me also. I can get anxious when my T goes out of town for the weekend. It doesn't affect my appointment with T, I have T's cell phone #, but still it bothers me. We are just beginning to discuss attachment ( after working together for just over 2 years). I agree that there is something for us to learn when they go on vacation. It's painful. I am hoping a sign of "getting better" will be when I don't care when T goes away and I can say "have a great trip" and mean it. But no hug.....boundary issue.